Born: July 17, 1917, Lima, OH
Died: August 20, 2012, Brentwood, Los
Angeles, CA
Phyllis Diller, whose sassy, screeching, rapid-fire stand-up
comedy helped open the door for two generations of funny women and earned her
the honor as one of the first careers inducted into The Smithsonian Institution,
died at the age of 95. on Monday at her home in the Brentwood neighborhood of Los Angeles. She was
95.
Ms. Diller, who became famous for telling jokes that mocked her odd
looks, her aversion to housekeeping and a husband she called Fang, was far from
the first woman to do stand-up comedy. But she was one of the most influential.
There were precious few women before her, if any, who could dispense one-liners
with such machine-gun precision or overpower an audience with such an outrageous
personality.
One chestnut: “I once wore a peekaboo blouse. People would
peek and then they’d boo.”
Another: “I never made ‘Who’s Who,’ but I’m
featured in ‘What’s That?’ ”
Ms. Diller, a 37-year-old homemaker when she
took up comedy, mined her domestic life for material, assuring audiences that
she fed Fang and her kids garbage soup and buried her ironing in the backyard.
She exuded an image that was part Wicked Witch of the West (a role she actually
played in a St. Louis stage production of “The Wizard of Oz”) and part
clown.
In her many television appearances she would typically sashay
onstage wearing stiff, outsize, hideous metallic dresses (she did this, she
said, so she could lie to her audiences about the state of her body, which was
really trim and shapely); high-heeled shoes or boots studded with rhinestones;
and a bejeweled collar better suited to a junkyard dog or a fur scarf that she
claimed was made from an animal she had trapped under the sink.
Slinking
along on skinny legs, her feet invariably pointed outward, penguin-style, she
originally carried a long bejeweled cigarette holder that held a make-believe
cigarette from which she continually flicked imaginary ashes. (Ms. Diller, who
did not smoke, later discarded the cigarette holder.)
Her hair was the
blond flyaway variety, sometimes looking as if it was exploding from her scalp;
her eyes were large and ferocious, her nose thin and overlong (she ultimately
tamed it through plastic surgery). And then there was that unforgettable,
ear-shattering voice, which would frequently explode into a sinister cackle that
seemed perfectly matched to her image as the ultimate domestic
demon.
Among Ms. Diller’s few female predecessors was Jean Carroll,
sometimes called “the female Milton Berle,” who made numerous appearances in
nightclubs and on Ed Sullivan’s variety show, where she mined her marriage and
family for laughs. There were others: Minnie Pearl was an outrageous Southern
spinster, Moms Mabley an outspoken black philosopher. But Ms. Diller’s
hard-hitting approach to one-liners — inspired by Bob Hope, who became an early
champion — was something new for a woman. Her success proved that female
comedians could be as aggressive or unconventional as their male counterparts,
and leave an audience just as devastated. She cleared the way for the likes of
Joan Rivers, Roseanne Barr, Whoopi Goldberg, Ellen DeGeneres and numerous
others.
Although Ms. Diller used writers to help create her act, she
estimated that she wrote 75 percent of the jokes herself. Her approach to humor
was methodical. “My material was geared towards everyone of all ages and from
different backgrounds, and I wanted to hit them right in the middle,” she
explained in her autobiography, “Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse: My Life in
Comedy” (2005), written with Richard Buskin. “I didn’t want giggles — I could
get those with my looks — I wanted boffs, and I wanted people to get the joke at
the same moment and laugh together. That way I could leave everything to my
timing.” She liked jokes that piled on the laughs in rapid succession. A
favorite of hers was this one: “I realized on our first wedding anniversary that
our marriage was in trouble. Fang gave me luggage. It was packed. My mother damn
near suffocated!”
Phyllis Ada Driver was born on July 17, 1917, in Lima,
Ohio, the daughter of Perry Driver, an insurance executive, and the former
Frances Ada Romshe. As a child she became interested in classical music, writing
and theater.
After briefly attending the Sherwood Conservatory of Music
in Chicago, she entered Bluffton College in Bluffton, Ohio, near Lima, with
thoughts of becoming a music teacher. She met Sherwood Anderson Diller in her
senior year in college, and they were married in 1939.
She never taught
music. The Dillers moved to California, where he was an inspector at a Navy air
station and later held various other jobs — none, by Ms. Diller’s account, for
very long. They struggled financially, even with Ms. Diller working. She wrote a
shopping column for a newspaper in San Leandro and advertising copy for a
department store in Oakland, then moved on to writing and promotion jobs at
radio stations in Oakland and San Francisco.
She started to move toward a
career in show business without realizing it. She was poor and unhappy, and she
would meet other poor and unhappy women at the Laundromat and regale them with
accounts of her home life. She also tried to inject humor into the advertising
and publicity copy she wrote. Word spread about Phyllis Diller, and soon she was
being asked to give presentations at parties and P.T.A. meetings.
Her
husband thought she should be paid to make people laugh. She lacked the
confidence to do it until she read a self-help book, “The Magic of Believing” by
Claude M. Bristol. Inspired by its message of empowerment, she began to write
her own comedy routines, hired a drama coach to give her more stage presence,
and took whatever paid or unpaid performing jobs she could get: at hospitals,
women’s clubs, church halls.
She made her bona fide professional debut at
the Purple Onion, a San Francisco nightclub, in 1955. At first her act contained
as much singing as joke-telling, with Ms. Diller’s persona more mock
sophisticate than housewife from hell — her signature numbers included
“Ridiculous,” a parody of the Eartha Kitt number “Monotonous” — but she
gradually developed the character and the look that would make her
famous.
She was soon being booked at nightclubs all over the country, and
she became nationally known after several dozen appearances on Jack Paar’s
“Tonight Show,” beginning in 1958. She was believable as well as hilarious when
she talked about her husband, Fang; her mother-in-law, Moby Dick; and her
sister-in-law, Captain Bligh. She was so believable that shortly after she
divorced Sherwood Diller in 1965, his mother and sister sued her for defamation
of character in an effort to keep her from talking about them in her act. She
insisted that she was talking about a fictional family, not them, and eventually
settled out of court. Ms. Diller was never really the grotesque-looking woman
she made herself out to be; her body, in fact, was attractive enough that when
she posed nude for a Playboy photo spread the pictures ended up not being
published — the magazine was going for laughs, and decided that they looked too
good to be funny.
And despite her self-deprecating humor, she was
concerned about her looks, especially as she began to detect signs of aging in
her television appearances in the early 1970s. She became one of the first
celebrities not just to have plastic surgery but also to acknowledge and even
publicize that fact. By the 1990s she had had more than a dozen operations,
including two nose jobs, three face-lifts, a chemical peel, a breast reduction,
cheek implants, an eyeliner tattoo and bonded teeth.
She never tried to
conceal the work and even kept a plastic surgery résumé, which she would give to
anyone who asked. And she continued to make jokes about her appearance. “The
ugly jokes would remain a part of my act because my image was already so well
established,” she wrote in her autobiography. “Audiences had bought into it
because, facially at least, it had been the truth, and for them it would
continue to be the truth.”
Although Ms. Diller was a frequent guest on
other people’s variety shows, her own network television ventures — “The Pruitts
of Southampton”(1966-67), a sitcom, and “The Beautiful Phyllis Diller
Show” (1968), a variety hour — were both short-lived. Late in life she had a
recurring role on the soap opera “The Bold and the Beautiful” and did voice-over
work on “Family Guy” and other cartoon shows.
Her movie career was not
particularly distinguished. While she made a number of films, including three
with Bob Hope — “Boy, Did I Get a Wrong Number!” (1966), “Eight on the Lam”
(1967) and “The Private Navy of Sgt. O’Farrell” (1968) — none were as funny as
she was.
But her career was not limited to movies, television or stand-up
comedy. Between 1971 and 1981 she appeared as a piano soloist with some 100
symphony orchestras across the country under the transparently phony name Dame
Illya Dillya. Although her performances were spiced with humor, she took the
music seriously. A review of one of her concerts in The San Francisco Examiner
called her “a fine concert pianist with a firm touch.”
She also appeared
on Broadway, stepping into the lead role in “Hello, Dolly!” for three months in
late 1969 and early 1970. She painted, too. And she wrote a number of books,
including “Phyllis Diller’s Housekeeping Hints,” “The Joys of Aging and How to
Avoid Them” and her autobiography.
Her marriage to Sherwood Diller lasted
26 years; in 1965, the same year the Dillers divorced, she married Warde
Donovan, an actor. That marriage, too, ended in divorce. She never remarried,
but she was the companion of Robert Hastings, a lawyer, from the mid-1980s until
his death in 1996.
Ms. Diller is survived by a son, Perry; a daughter,
Suzanne Mills; four grandchildren; and a great-granddaughter. When she appeared
in Las Vegas in May 2002, three years after suffering a heart attack, Ms. Diller
announced that this would be her last stand-up performance. She stuck to that
decision. Her final performance was captured in the 2004 documentary “Goodnight,
We Love You,” directed by Gregg Barson.
Asked by Bob Thomas of The
Associated Press in 2005 whether she missed performing, Ms. Diller answered: “I
don’t miss the travel. I miss the laughter. I do miss the actual hour. “I don’t
want to sound like I’m on dope, but that hour is a high; it’s as good as you can
feel. A wonderful, wonderful happiness, and great power.”
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